Autumn is my favourite time of year. I love the vibrant colours of autumn. As the leaves begin to fall, nature offers us a reminder of the cycles of change and renewal, we all go through. For me, autumn is a time of reflection—a season that invites us to turn inward, just as the trees release their leaves in preparation for the cold winter ahead. As a relationship and intimacy counsellor, I often find that this season mirrors the emotional work we do when we let go of beliefs, patterns, and behaviours that no longer serve us.
In relationships, whether with ourselves or others, we can easily become stuck in patterns of avoidance, fear, shame, or unhealthy dynamics. Just as trees naturally shed what is no longer needed, we too can learn to release what keeps us stuck. Whether it's a belief that "I'm not enough," a fear of vulnerability, or the tendency to put others' needs before your own, autumn is a time to gently let go of these limiting beliefs and unhealthy behaviours.
Shedding, however, can be uncomfortable. It requires vulnerability and the courage to confront aspects of ourselves that we've clung to for so long. Yet, just as trees trust in the process of regrowth, we too can trust that by releasing these old patterns, we create space for healthier, more authentic ways of relating to ourselves and others.
As you walk through this season of change, I encourage you to reflect on what you may need to release. What belief or behaviour is keeping you stuck in a cycle of disconnect or dissatisfaction? What would it feel like to let it go?
Remember, shedding is not about loss—it's about renewal. Just as the trees will bloom again in spring, your relationships and sense of self can blossom in beautiful ways once you've cleared the space for growth.
Embrace the season, trust in the process, and know that what you're releasing now will make room for something more nourishing and fulfilling.
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